How to Make Friends Online as an Adult (Without the Awkwardness)

5 min read · By the Booick team

Making friends as an adult is hard. Here is a simple, low-pressure way to meet people online, turn a good chat into a real friendship and stay safe doing it.

After college or when you move cities, friends get harder to make. Work eats your day and most people already have their circle. The internet can fill the gap, if you do it the right way.

Start where there is something to talk about

Cold "hi" chats rarely last. Conversations stick when there is a shared thing to react to: a game, a video, a topic. That is why group rooms, watch-together rooms and games work better than pure small talk for many people.

A simple 5-step way

1. Pick a vibe that matches your mood, like Chill Talk, Music, Movies or Gaming.
2. Open with a specific question instead of "hi". What are you watching this week?
3. Keep going for a few messages. Share a little about yourself, not your address or workplace.
4. If it clicked, send a friend request. Nothing happens unless they accept.
5. Do something together: play a game, watch a video, or call by voice.

Turn a chat into a friendship

Friendship is repetition. Talk again the next day, start a daily streak and keep in touch around something you both like. Short, regular conversations beat one long chat.

Stay safe

• Do not share your address, school, workplace or photos with someone new.
• Never send money or one-time passwords.
• Share your phone number or social handle only with someone you trust, and only when you both want to.
• If someone pushes you, end the chat, block and report.

Meet someone new →